Sunday, March 24, 2013

Old Friends, True Friends Continued...

"They know who you are.  They know who you're not."

This was part of my post the other day, and I really loved it, so I thought I would play around with it a bit more.

Old friends know who you are.  They know your fashion sense, your taste in food, your favorite movies, and what you like to do when you have free time.  They were there the night you got that scar.  They know the meaning behind the nickname - and probably gave it to you in the first place.  They've been there through the things in your life that made you who you are, or at least know the stories well enough to understand.  They pick up on your moods, good or bad.  They know just what to do to alter or maintain those moods.  They know who you are, why you are, and where you are.

Old friends also know who you're not.  They know when the smile on your face is fake.  They notice when the outfit you're wearing has been put together with someone else in mind.  They look past the rumors and assumptions of others to see what really happened.  They know when you're acting differently to try to impress someone.  Putting on an act - a brave face or a silly mood has absolutely no effect around them because they'll see right through it.  They might know you're sad while you still have even yourself convinced that you're fine.

Knowing who you're not is definitely trickier, but I think it might be just a bit more important.  It takes a deeper level of friendship to understand who someone is not.  It takes time, patience, and a whole lot of communication.  But these are the friends that are best able to help you be your best self.


  1. I loved that line from your previous post too. I thought it was so true. I also agree that your friends can see through the brave face you might wear around, even when you have convinced yourself otherwise. Good friends are priceless.

  2. I love the idea of friends as people who know who you are not! Not sure I have ever thought about it through this lens, but it's so, so true, I think. How grateful I am for those people in my life! Thanks for helping me look at the world in a different way today.